It is with great sadness that we announce the passing of our courageous mother, wife, grammy and sister Shar at the young age of 60. Her loving family were with her when she peacefully left us on March 20th, 2011 in Victoria BC.
She will be sadly missed by all of those lucky enough to have known her. Shar was predeceased by her father Alfred Carter, stepfather Myron Morden and mother Mary Morden. She was born in Chilliwack, BC on May 30, 1950.
Shar had the wisdom to retire at 58 and was able to fill two years with two of her favorite hobbies, traveling with Stewart and mucking in her garden at home. She fought her battle with incredible courage and though it was not her choice to leave us at this young age she went with dignity and grace.
Shar was the oldest child in a family of six and took on the role of responsibility through her childhood. Through her illness she did not falter in this role and in her final months she spent countless hours putting ‘her house’ in order. She cared most about those she was leaving behind and she made sure everything was in order. This includes the following words she wrote to include in her obituary:
‘I was blessed to be a part of a large and loving family and want to say a huge thank you to my sisters, Vickie, Sandra, Marilyn & Cindy and brother Michael for believing in me and supporting Stewart, my kids and I until the end. To my kids, Clayton (Kristen), Amanda (Dave), Robbin (Luis), no parent could have asked for more, they along with my grandchildren Tristan, Alexis, Zachary, Liam, Julianna, Grant, Hanna and Matthew made my years with them full of love and laughter. To Stewart – my loving husband & soul mate – there aren’t enough words to describe how much you meant to me. To my extended family and friends: thank you for your caring and support through the many years we have known each other. Life may be short, make every minute count. In lieu of flowers – buy a plant, plant it and watch it grow’.
We wish to extend a heartfelt thanks to the wonderful nurses and doctors of Victoria Hospice. In lieu of flowers we add to Shar’s own wishes that donations be made to the Victoria Hospice Foundation or The Weekend to End Cancer www.endcancer.ca – Team Name: Shar’s Shooting Stars.
Service to be held Saturday, March 26th, 2:00pm at First Memorial Funeral Home, 375 Brae Rd., Duncan, BC.